A Lover's Quarrel, or Marion Marlowe's Deceitful Friend — page 31: what you’re looking at

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223 As render your wife, is quite another. We cannot un- derstand any self-respecting woman marrying you. Why don’t you brace up—do what is right and try and deserve your wife’s respect? I am twenty years of age and have recentl e- come engaged to a young man whom I love nen He also shows his love for me, but there are many things about him which I do not like. My father tells me these will be all forgotten after we are married, but I do not think so. Please tell me which of. us is right. LENA L New York, N. Y. We doubt very much whether anything that you object to now will become less objectionable after marriage.The ciose associations of married life are apt to impress the qualities of one’s husband or wife upon us much more strongly than before marriage. If they are objectionable qualities, it will. be just so much harder to avoid them. We would advise you to think the matter over very seriously before you marry. I am twenty-two years old, but do not look over nineteen. I am called pretty, but am slightly lame. Some people notice it, but others do not. I have quite a number of friends, but I never have had a steady fellow. Do you think it is on account of my lameness? Would that make any difference if any of them really cared for me? Perhaps it is because I am distant and do not go around to dances or any place without my parents’ consent, and they are very particular. SORROWFUL. Lowell, Mass. If your lameness Is so slight, it is probably no detriment to you. Any one who really cares for you would not think of it for a moment. Do not be in a hurry to have a “‘steady fellow.’ If you are slow to choose, perhaps you may choose the better in the end. A little delay now may result in a better class of acquaintances later on. Can you tell me how to find out if a man is sincere or not, and is it proper for a girl to kiss a boy good night when he leaves her after seeing her home from a dance, if they are not engaged or have no inten- tions of being? Do you think a girl of seventeen knows her own mind? I think she does. Is it im- proper or right to marry a man ten years your senior? Please keep that book going forever. Providence, R. lL. R You will have to judge by the man’s actions whether he is sincere. We do not approve of pro- miscuous kissing. A girl should retain her favors for her fiance or husband. There are many girls of seventeen who do not know their own minds and a few who do. It depends upon the girl. We see nothing improper in a girl marrying a man ten years her senior, provided she loves him and he loves her. This is the main qualification for mar- riage, and we do not advise marriage without it, no matter what the ages. . UBY. A nice young man (as IT thought him to be) court- ed me for five months. Later I heard he was mar- ried. He did not deny it and said he didn’t court me out of harm, but because he loved me so well. His wife was sick and he begged me to go and see her, and I found her to be lonely, Since I met her I do not notice him. Is it right to go and see her, or do you think he is under the impression that it is him I go to see? 5. SARAH M, ’ Pittsburg, Pa. This man seems to be utterly without principle. No married man has any rieht or excuse to “court” another woman. We would advise you to dispense with his acquaintance entirely and not give him a chance to think that you desire to see him. Since you have found his wife so lonely an individual, we gee no reason why you eannot continue her acquaint- ance, and perhaps you can in a quiet way assist her in keeping her husband at home so that she will have the attention which she deserves and which seems to want to show to other women. Do not e h rg allow.his tales of ‘dove’ to affect you for an MY QUEEN. stant. Love must carry respect with it in ‘order to be of any value, and no man shows you respect if he makes love to you while he is wedded to another woman. My mother will not allow me to 20 with youn girls and boys. I am sixteen years 1d and os 7 school, and after school when I get home I have to do the work, get SepD st, and on Saturday I have to help with the washing. Even on Sunday she is not willing to let me £e out. I have a sister who is a school teacher and she never makes her do a thing. I think that I should be allowed to go out sometimes or to have Se ai a company. Buffalo, N. Y. We presume your sister may keep the household in other ways than simply working. You are young yet, and a few years spent closely at home will not hurt you. We know that housework is not always pleasant, but it will help you to know how to take care of a home of your own some day. Ask your mother to let you have companions of your own age come and see you when you are not busy, and we have no doubt that she will consent. I am a young lady of nineteen and have been keep- ing company with a young man for some time. Often he stays away and I do not know the cause, for he says he loves me, and when he comes back he gives no reason for his absence. He has done this often, and between times I have been with other friends. I think perhaps if I had been true to them and not given them up every time he came back that I would have steady company, but I feel that I love him more than any one else. .I would like to know if I should let my love grow cold toward him. He has told me that his intentions were to marry me, but he acts strangely once in a while, and it only keeps me worrying about him. He knows that I have stopped going around with any one but him, so it makes me feel downhearted to go out alone. I can- not go back to any of my old friends now, for there would be talk. ; MARTHA D. Philadelphia, Pa. If you feel that you are ‘being made a fool of,” we cannot understand how you can continue to love. Your self-respect should control your heart. If you are engaged to this young man, he ought certainly to give you some reason for his absences. On the other hand, perhaps he is only thoughtless and does not realize that he is giving you cause for worry. We would advise you to talk the matter over with him calmly and explain that you feel that you can- not afford to give up friends who treat you with consideration for one who apparently fails to ap- preciate you. If he really loves you, he will not neg- lect you. I am a young lady twenty years old. I wish to ask your opinion concerning @ young man’s actions toward me. He works in a large store near my home, and whenever I go in there he just stares and laughs at me, and he also tries to enter into conversation with me. AsTI do not care for him I will not talk to him, but he will insist upon laugh- | ing at me, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable, as I imagine he is making fun of me, Do you think he is? Pansy 0. Paterson, N, J. Do not concern yourself about this young man’s foolish actions. The sooner you show that his un- gentlemanly behavior does not affect you the sooner he will cease his nonsense, If you have no big brother to visit upon him the punishment he de- serves, then convince him by your demeanor that you consider him beneath your notice. ‘ I am a girl of seventeen and go to various dances and am also a member of a dub where we have dances and receptions. One gentinee in particu- lar, belonging to the same club, always dances with me there. but when he met me at a public dance he did not engage a single dance with me. I after- ward met him at the club dance, and he w to dance with me, but I refused him. T did not te him the reason why, but I think he must have h it, for he did not speak to me after that, Kindly ad- Eomicbooks.com