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28 MY suppose I would feel that way myself if I saw him with another girl. He is twenty years old and a hard worker. “ee “*Please advise me what to do—shall I marry him or not asJ am not old enough to judge for myself. Pansy L. BE.” We are very glad indeed that you enjoy read- ing ‘‘My Queen’? so much and are quite willing to answer your questions. You are too young to marry, and it seems to us that you are a little doubtful of your own affec- tion for this man. You, perhaps, think you care for him only because you have not seen many men You are both of you youthful enough to wait a few years before marriage, and during that time you would have an opportunity to be- come convinced of the sincerity of your affection. No girl of sixteen is either mentally or physically fitted for the responsibilities of married life, and we are very glad you wrote to us before taking sO serious a step. ‘“T have read all your advice in‘My Queen’ Weekly and would like to have you answer this question for me. I am nearly seventeen years old and would like you to tell me if it is wrong for me to go with young men, or you might call them boys, as none of them is much offer than nineteen. My mother does not think it is proper. She says I am too young. I would not like a steady fellow, but would like to have fun like lots of the girls have. Harti R.’’ Your mother is probably better acquainted with these» young men than you are and better able to judge whether they are desirable com- panions. You are quite right in not wanting to tie your- self to any one man at present, and the old adage, “Phere is safety in numbers,’’ holds good in this case. If you go out with young men, do so in mod- eration, and there will be nothing actually wrong in a friendly companionship. We would advise you to take your mother’s opinion as to which of the young men you know are the most desira- ble companions for you. “Tam a pretty girl of sixteen, and have many lovers whom I have gained by my countenance. The other evening [ met a young entleman of whom Lam very fond and he asked me to go to the opera with him, On our way back to my resi- dence he asked me to run away to New York with him and get married, “He is a handsome man of nineteen, and as we are both well to do, do you think it would be wrong to accept his offer? (We love each other dearly. to do the right thing. We think it would not only be wrong but very foolish for you to run away with this young man, if vou love him and are engaged to marry him, vou should at once, both of you, tell your parents and vain their consent to your marrying at home. Do not place too much reliance upon lovers whom you have gained through your good looks, Make up your Please advise me MADELINE H.”’ and do not be in haste to marry. SL ean *, Pe ‘ , : ‘? ae QUEEN. mind to see semething of the world and of life before you tie yourself down to matrimonial responsibilities. . If this young man is sure that he loves you, h ought, also, to respect your good name too much > to ask you to do anything so foolish and so cer- tain to cast reflection upon your reputation. f bi i i » ; { ' “Will you kindly answer a question which is worrying me greatly? Of late I have kept steady company with a man of nineteen, butasI am only fourteen years old, my mother won’t allow. me to keep company with him, but I meet him every other night. Kindly let me know if Iam doing right. I think I am, because I love him dearly. He says he loves me, too, GLApys F,”’ We advise you to do exactly as your mother says.. You are entirely too young to be ‘‘keeping company’ with young men, and we think you had better cease meeting this young man at once. Do not meet any one outside of your own home. Leave thoughts of love to others for a few years yet. You are too young to understand what love really means. Spend a few years more with your studies and in cultivating your mind—it will be much more profitable than going about with young men. 4 a 4! “A gentleman who has been waiting on me for some time past and to whom I have written many letters, began going with other girls and_ we called it ‘quits,’ and I asked him for my let- ters, but they were refused. a “T have spent a good deal of time in worrying and thinking over it, and seeing that you had helped so many others, I now turn to you for aid. JEAN.”’ If the ‘‘gentleman”’ is not gentlemanly enough to return your letters when asked to, we would not bother aboutthem. Let him keep them for the present, and, after a few months, ask him for them casually and, perhaps, by that time he will have lost interest in them and be willing to re- — turn them. ; In the future, do not write letters that you are © not willing the receiver should retain in any event. Never put on paper anything that you do } ; 4 - ae ..) eater ge a not mean or are afraid to stand back of, but con- sider, when a letter leaves your hands, that it then becomes the property of another. “Tama young girl of seventeen. Three young men are paying me attention, two of them have — asked me to marry them, but I do not love — either. “The third one has not spoken of love to me, although he has kissed me. Would it be very — ‘immodest of me to ask him if he loves me when — he wants to kiss me? Guapys P.”. You do not say whether you have any affection — for the third young man, although your willing- ; ness to kiss him leads us to suppose that you” must eare something for him. The surest way for you to find out whether he | loves you is to be less free with your kisses. Tell — him that you reserve that privilege for your fue. ture husband, Tf the young man really cares for — SE a